How Can Single People Control Their Desires?

   The first thing I recommend is channeling your energy into physical work and spiritual service. That will give your energy a legitimate outlet.

   Second, don't seek to be married. Seek to love and let marriage come as a natural response. People who make marriage their goal will often wind up marrying the wrong person. Don't be preoccupied with finding the right person. Instead, work on becoming the person God wants you to be. Know that God will, in His time, lead you to the person He has chosen for you. Don't worry. Marriage will take care of itself.

   Be sure to control what goes into your mind. Your thinking controls your emotions and behavior (cf. Prov. 23:7). Our world is obsessed with sex. Movies and television programs abound with implicit sex, explicit sex, and sexual innuendo. Sex is used as an attention getting device to advertise an incredible range of products. And premarital and extramarital sex are widely accepted in our hedonistic society. As Christians we need to be careful not to allow the values of the world system to infiltrate our thinking.

   Program your mind with divine truth. This is the flip side of the previous principle. Rather than allow the world's values to control your thinking, fill your mind with divine truth.

   Avoid potentially dangerous situations, as Joseph did (Gen. 39:7-12). The Bible does not tell us to stand our ground and fight sexual temptation, but to flee ( l Cor. 6:18; 2 Tim. 2:22).

   Most importantly, recognize that for now God has chosen for you to live without sex. Remember He has promised not to allow any temptation in your life that is too strong for you to handle ( 1 Cor. 10:13). Learn to have the attitude of Paul, who said in Philippians 4:11, "I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.


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